Summary
This ESL lesson for B2 English students focuses on developing essential active listening skills to improve communication in both personal and professional contexts. Through engaging activities, students will learn to move beyond passive listening and become more effective, empathetic communicators.
This lesson helps intermediate students explore the nuances of truly hearing and understanding others. Activities include a warm-up discussion on listening habits, a vocabulary matching task, and comprehension questions based on a video about becoming a "trampoline listener."
Students will practice forming effective questions for clarification and engage in realistic role-plays to apply useful phrases for deeper understanding. The material is designed to generate meaningful conversation and provide practical communication tools for everyday interactions.
Activities
- A warm-up discussion where students share personal experiences with listening and being heard, setting the stage for the lesson's theme of active communication.
- Video comprehension questions based on an expert talk about different listening styles and practical techniques for becoming a better listener.
- A vocabulary matching exercise to reinforce key terms related to communication, understanding, and active listening.
- Guided role-play scenarios involving common conversations, such as discussing concerns or seeking advice, allowing students to practice asking clarifying questions and showing empathy.
AMY GALLO: Are you a good listener?
No, really.
Are you?
You might think you are because you stay silent while they're
talking, nod your head and say mm-hmm,
and repeat back, word for word, what you heard them say.
This has been standard management advice
on good listening for ages.
But what if I told you that following these tips
could leave the listener feeling unheard or even dismissed?
The truth is that mastering the art of listening
involves a whole host of other skills.
You need to do more.
In this video, you'll learn techniques
that will help you in both professional and personal
relationships.
Are you ready to be not just a good listener but a great one?
Let's get started.
The first step after putting away all distractions,
like cell phones and laptops, is to recognize
that listening is an active, noncompetitive, two-way
interaction.
Authors Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman
write that we shouldn't be passive, like a sponge merely
absorbing information.
Instead, we need to be active listeners,
like a trampoline, giving the speaker's thoughts height,
acceleration, energy, and amplification.
But how do you become a so-called trampoline listener?
First, it's important to ask yourself,
how do I usually listen?
Maybe you're typically task-oriented,
focused on efficiency; or analytical,
aiming to analyze problems from a neutral perspective;
or relational, building connections and responding
emotionally; or critical, perhaps judging both
the content and the speaker.
You may, out of habit, default to one of these styles in most
situations.
But if you then ask yourself, why
do I need to listen right now, you
may realize that a different mode or a combination of modes
is better suited for this moment.
Is a family member in need of emotional support,
or a coworker hoping for an honest critique?
Reflecting on the goals of each conversation, what you want,
and what the speaker needs will help you determine
the best way to listen.
This question can also remind us to listen without an agenda
so we can process what the other person is saying
without formulating a response.
At some point in the conversation,
you'll likely have to share your perspective.
But for now, take in what they have
to say without thinking about what you'll say next.
Another question to ask is, who is the focus of attention
in the conversation?
Sharing your own personal stories
can establish connection and validation.
But you don't want to steer the conversation away
from the speaker in a way that makes
them feel dismissed or unheard.
Also, you can ask, what am I missing?
Remember, good listening is much more
than nodding, saying mm-hmm, and parroting back
what you heard the person say.
In reality, speaking up and asking good questions signals
to the speaker that not only have you heard what they said,
but you understood it enough to want more information.
It can also profoundly changed the conversation.
If you pay attention to verbal and nonverbal cues,
that may reveal that the speaker has more
to say than what appears at face value.
They may be uncertain about sharing vulnerability,
or they may not even realize that they're
expressing unexamined emotions.
Asking questions based on what may have been left unsaid
can show the other person that you were listening deeply.
It can make them feel supported and lead
to insight for both of you.
Here's an example.
An employee tells you, I'm worried about my presentation
for the board meeting.
You might try to naturally reassure and relate
by saying something like, oh, you're going to be great.
It took me years before I could present without being nervous.
Unfortunately, while you're attempting
to make a connection here, that kind of response
can actually dismiss their concerns
without inviting further detail.
It ignores what might be an important issue underlying
their statement and switches the focus to you.
To show that you're listening in a deeper way,
you can say something like, I was nervous
when I started presenting too.
What's worrying you?
Big difference, right?
When trying to be a better listener,
another good question to ask yourself
is, am I getting in my own way?
All too often, we prevent ourselves
from being able to listen deeply because of our own insecurities
or head trips.
We might be emotionally uncomfortable
or worry about how confident and prepared
we seem to the other person.
With practice, quieting that internal monologue
will leave space to actually hear what's
being said by the other person.
So far, we've been talking about how anyone
can be a better listener.
But if you're a senior leader, where much more is at stake,
good listening is an imperative skill.
It's wise to ask, am I in an information bubble?
Many leaders find themselves in those information bubbles
because employees are afraid of questioning, challenging,
second-guessing, or disappointing them.
They may spin information in a positive light
to avoid tough conversations with leadership.
As Kevin Sharer, former CEO and chairman of Amgen, said,
"If you walk around and see a bunch of smiling faces and say,
'Gee, everybody looks happy to me,' you're not listening."
Leaders must develop the discipline
to listen purely for comprehension
without judgment, agenda, or distraction
and actively seek input from all levels and ranks.
Also, creating an atmosphere that
prioritizes trust over hierarchy means
anybody can feel comfortable sharing information,
whether it's good or bad.
OK.
Let's review.
Most conversations would benefit if we
could be active, supportive trampoline listeners instead
of passive information sponges.
To do this, you can ask yourself,
how do I usually listen?
Reflecting on your default listening style
can help you assess how to improve your listening skills.
Why do I need to listen right now?
Thinking about what the other person might
need from your conversation can provide clues
as to how you can best listen at that moment.
Who is the focus of attention in the conversation?
Be careful sharing your own experiences
in an attempt to connect.
You don't want to steer the conversation away from what
the speaker is trying to say.
What am I missing?
Ask good questions not only about what is said
but what may be left unsaid.
Am I getting in my own way?
Be careful not to let your own internal monologue prevent you
from truly being able to listen deeply.
And for our current and future senior leaders
out there, ask, am I in an information bubble?
Practice listening purely for comprehension.
And create an environment where employees have opportunities
to share feedback and feel comfortable doing so.
Thanks for watching.
All of the strategies that I've shared today
are based on HBR articles linked below.
Do you have your own strategies for becoming a better listener?
Or is there a topic you want us to cover in a future HBR video?
Comment below.
We're listening.
Bye.
Vocabulary focus
The vocabulary section introduces terms essential for discussing effective communication and listening. Key terms include "dismissed," "a whole host of," "absorbing," "determine," "formulating," "nonverbal cues," "paraphrasing," "clarifying," "empathy," "feedback," "underlying issue," and "steer the conversation away." Students will expand their ability to describe nuances in communication.
Grammar focus
This lesson concentrates on **forming effective questions for clarification and deeper understanding**. Students will practice asking open-ended questions that encourage speakers to elaborate and ensure the listener has fully grasped the message, moving beyond simple "yes/no" responses to foster more meaningful dialogue.
